Can You Express Your Feelings?

Do you ever find yourself saying, “ I just can’t explain the way I feel”? Don’t worry because you are not alone. Emotions are a tricky thing and if they are not expressed appropriately; it will affect not only yourself, but also the people around you

Self-expression is the second composite scale that contributes to emotional intelligence. This composite scale is about how we show and express ourselves to others.

These competencies make up the self-expression area of the model:

  • Emotional expression
  • Assertiveness
  • Independence

Let’s begin and discuss Emotional Expression.

Let me ask you, how do you express your feelings?
It’s common for people to get caught up in their hectic lives. If we don’t take time to process our emotions, then we can’t express them. And, if we don’t express our feelings…then they can come out passive aggressively through our actions, causing difficulties or misunderstandings within our relationships.

Here are some tips to express your feelings in an effective way:

1. Stop and Breathe

Whether you are overcome with happiness or sadness, the important thing to do is to stop and breathe through it to ground yourselves. Once you have a clear mind you can then start to communicate your emotions.

2. Say It Out Loud

Now that you are physically and mentally relaxed, it is time to communicate how you are feeling. It’s important to talk about your emotions whether it is through speaking or writing, you will feel a sense of relief once you have named and articulated them.

3. Stay True To Yourself

It’s important to stay true to yourself and express the emotions you are feeling, not the ones you think other people want you to feel.

So there you have it – three simple steps for expressing your emotions! Don’t be scared to express your emotions, because in the end, the only one you are hurting is yourself.

If this post has you curious and you’d like to learn more, watch my video on leading with emotional intelligence (training program available in both face-to-face and online delivery formats): Leading with Emotional Intelligence.

Join me next time as I continue to break down the emotional intelligence area of Self-Expression, and explore the second competency in this area, assertiveness. Until then, express yourself to be your best self.

Learn more about emotional intelligence in my previous blogs: A Leader’s New Best Friend, What’s Your Score?, What Really Matters and Once You Know Better, You Do Better

Carolyn Stern

Carolyn Stern specializes in helping professional women get unstuck, maximize their potential and achieve more. She is a successful entrepreneur, self-development professional, author, university professor, corporate trainer and coach, as well as a Certified Emotional Intelligence Facilitator/Instructor.

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