What’s Your Score?

Emotions provide valuable information about how we understand the world around us; and people who know their own emotions and are good at reading others’ emotions are more effective in the workplace.

Self-perception is the first area that contributes to emotional intelligence. This is about how we see or perceive ourselves.

There are three competencies that make up the self-perception area:
• Self-regard
• Self-actualization
• Emotional self-awareness

Let’s begin and discuss Self-Regard. Self-Regard – is the ability to accept yourself just the way you are – ‘warts and all’.

Let me ask you, how are you feeling about yourself today? On a scale of 1-10, with ten being you feel great about yourself and 1 being you feel terrible, what score would you grade yourself?

We all have insecurities, and the media does not make it any easier on us. Let’s be honest, we live in a culture that bombards us with unrealistic images of beauty, success, and happiness.

So what can you do to feel better about yourself, and reduce those nasty insecurities?

When I am feeling insecure, there are a few things that I do to feel better.

1. Pull out and read my warm fuzzy folder. – What’s a warm fuzzy folder? It’s a collection of anything anyone has ever said, written, or done to me that could be categorized as positive. It includes motivational quotes, inspiring images, complimentary emails or comments I have received, and pictures of moments when I was truly happy.

2. Surround myself with supportive people. I surround myself with the people in my life who just ‘get me’ and love me. When I am feeling bad about myself, I need those people to help me try to counter my negative thoughts.

3. Act as if – There are times when I believe everyone can see my insecurity. But here’s the wonderful truth. It’s invisible – it’s just a thought. As long as I don’t act on that thought, no one can see that it is there.

We can be our own worst enemies…so many times our self-limiting beliefs get the best of us. And we really just need to put those aside, and get out of our own way.

If this post has you curious and you’d like to learn more, watch my video on leading with emotional intelligence (training program available in both face-to-face and online delivery formats).

Join me next time as I continue to break down the area of Self-Perception, and explore the next competency, self-actualization. Until then, be your own best friend.

Carolyn Stern

Carolyn Stern specializes in helping professional women get unstuck, maximize their potential and achieve more. She is a successful entrepreneur, self-development professional, author, university professor, corporate trainer and coach, as well as a Certified Emotional Intelligence Facilitator/Instructor.

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